The top Life Coaches and personal development gurus do this…


I’ve been loving that Super Soul with Oprah is now a Podcast! Listening to the best in the business share their experiences and wisdom while going about my day is one of my favourite things to do. 

Listening to Tony Robbins, Life Coach extraordinare, and Iyanla Vanzant, creator of The TV show Fix My Life and incredible speaker, they both focused on the same practice at the core of spiritual growth and living in alignment with your true purpose…connecting with your heart (your intuition, God, the universe). One of my mentors, Sonia Tully, has taught me a very similar practice that I use all the time to get guidance and I love it because it’s quick, easy and so clear. 

Tony describes choosing something in your life that you’re struggling with at a level of 7 out of 10. Closing your eyes and putting your hand on your heart and bringing to mind 3 separate experiences you are grateful for e.g. The birth of your child, achieving a goal or a special time with friends. Then once you’ve got yourself into the state (vibration) of gratitude you ask your heart what to do about the problem you are facing and listen for the guidance. 

Iyanla talks about being in the God space in prayer, feeling completely connected and at one with creation. She emphasises that your intuition is key to the choices you make and is how we receive guidance from God. Oprah says if you’re out of alignment with your higher purpose God hits you first with a pebble, then if you don’t listen the rock gets bigger and bigger until it’s a boulder. This is a metaphor for the intuitive nudges we get that we ignore, for example if you bring on a new business partner you may have some misgivings but ignore them. Then a few things start to go wrong in your business, but you soldier on. Eventually the business may fail and you go bankrupt (the boulder!). This is not a punishment from God or the universe, it’s purely because that situation or relationship, in the form it’s in, it’s untenable for you and out of alignment with your deepest desires. So eventually it has to break down completely if you don’t listen and act on the red flags. 

Sonia, my mentor, teaches a beautiful tool called ‘My heads says….and my heart says….’ Choose something your worried about or struggling with, then speak out loud ‘my head says….’ and say all the thoughts and stuff your head is saying to you e.g. I’m not sure I can do this, am I good enough? What will they say? Etc. Then take a deep breath, put your hand on your heart and tune in – then say ‘my heart says…’ and allow the words to come naturally. Can you feel the difference in energy of your head and your heart? What do they both feel like? 

I love that there is so much emphasis on how essential it is to connect to your heart and your intuition. That is the space we create from and heal in. 

Sending love ❤️ 

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How do you connect to your intuition? 

My first experience of actively connecting with my intuition was using a very practical tool – oracle cards. I started using Angel oracle cards created by Doreen Virtue; there are so many different card decks out there for you to choose from. I loved this tool because I could hold the cards in my hands, there was a guidebook with instructions & explanations. It was practical rather than conceptual. I would pull cards to answer all kind of questions and use the guidebook, in conjunction with my intuition, to interpret the message. There are even apps you can download onto your phone now.  

How you start to interpret messages is by reading words on the cards, looking up each card in the guideboook and asking yourself what the images mean to you. Bring your awareness to your thoughts, feelings, ideas and visualisations to piece together the guidance that comes through. There is lots to learn about card readings, I completed an Angel Tarot Card Reader training which was fab, but you certainly don’t need to have heaps of training to use this tool to connect to your intuition.

At first it can feel very uncomfortable trying to figure out ‘what’s my intuition & what’s my mind or my imagination’? Which is why it’s recommended to start by asking questions or seeking guidance on subjects that not too heavily emotionally laden. For example – what do you suggest I focus on today? Rather than will my current relationship last? 

The gut feeling. We’ve all used the phrase – I have a gut feeling about this; meaning I have a feeling in my body, specifically in the tummy area, that is giving me information on this subject that I can’t verify externally. This is most often your intuition. I like to use my ‘gut feeling’ to help me with a yes or no answer. I pose my yes or no question and bring my attention to the sensation to my tummy. For me a yes feels like a lifting and lightening of the energy around my middle, whereas a no is more of a sinking, lowering feeling in my tummy. Test it out with questions you know the answer to and see what a yes and no feels like to you in your body. For example my name is….say the wrong name to get a no & the right name to get a yes. 

Another tool I use almost everyday is a little more subtle and may take a bit more practice, so don’t feel disheartened if it doesn’t feel clear straight away. Before I go sleep at night, when I’m in bed with my eyes closed, I thank my intellect for all the hard work it’s done during the day and suggest it has a break. I feel like my prefrontal cortex (the front part of my brain) is almost moving back a little into my skull – I’m sure it isn’t, it’s more my visualisation. Giving my intellect the back seat allows space for my higher self, my intuition, my angels and guides to come in. If you’re not comfortable with the words angels or guides just think of it as your inner guidance system. 

You might feel a shift in energy, more subtle and peaceful, like a safe space. From here I communicate with my thoughts and ‘listen’ for answers. There are a number of different ways we can perceive intuitive guidance; clairaudience is the ‘hearing’ of guidance. This usually doesn’t mean an external sound, like the sound of others talking, but rather an internal perception of words. It is similar to thoughts but it has a very different quality to it. I find thoughts usually have lots and lots of words, they run quite fast and feel almost energetically jaggedy. Whereas my intuitive guidance has few words, is very clear and comes in quickly and has an energetic quality like clear glass. So if thoughts feel like the opaque glass you have in bathrooms, guidance feels like completely clear glass. I know that sounds pretty abstract! Give it a try and see how it feels to you, remembering not to put too much pressure on yourself and start with simple, unemotional requests. 

Let me know how you get on! 😘

Following your inner guidance + taking aligned action = manifesting your dreams


There have been times in my life when I was super good at being very structured and disciplined. I had my time mapped out each day and was taking heaps of action to build my business, stay healthy etc. etc. I was doing all the RIGHT things. But I wasn’t moving very quickly, or successfully, to the realisation of my dreams and goals. There have been other times when I was deeply connected to my spirit and my intuition but wasn’t taking much action at all, and again little forward motion. I have learnt that balancing being present and listening to my inner guidance, artfully combined with following that guidance by taking specific actions, is the sweet spot. In this place synchronicities flood in, what I need to reach goal after goal is magically available and the journey is fun and energising.

When I was living mostly from my intellect, or ego, I was very busy and got lots done, but the progress was slow and laboured. I had somewhere along the line of growing up, figuring out how to fit in with life and the people around me, disconnected from my intuition. Meaning that I could take as much action as I liked but the flow and ease wasn’t there. This was exhausting and I actually ended up being diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. The causes of autoimmune illness are never that simple, but it was certainly a contributing factor.

Being so disconnected from my intuition meant I was giving 110% but often times in the wrong directions and to the wrong people or projects. The result was I was keeping myself stuck on a kind of never-ending merry-go-round. Finally my body had had enough and shut down; so many of our intuitive messages come through the body, it never lies. My brain was focused and determined on the path I was on, but my body knew better and thankfully stepped in to call a huge time-out.

While I was tapped out of the majority of ‘life occasions’ by my illness I had time to reflect and I started to study and learn how to re-connect with myself, my spirit and my own inner guidance system. This system is the most incredible and well informed way to make our choices and live our lives. The knowing we can access from our higher selves goes way beyond what the limited intellect can figure out. This is where miracles come from, and impossibly perfect timing and magical synchronicity. Not that I am not extremely grateful to my intellect, it is excellent when put to good use in service of my true purpose. However is not great at running the show, as it is by its very nature limited to our 5 senses. The sixth sense, that we all (without exception) have access to is where the magic happens.

Now that I’ve created a good balance of tuning into my intuition and taking action that is aligned with my dreams I am guided to find the information I need, or connect with the person who can help me or go to the event that speaks directly to what I’m struggling with. For example I was invited to a business presentation a few weeks ago, initially I decided no as it was last minute, I had other plans and rearranging them would be a mission. Also I was pretty nervous about going for a number of reasons, but when I tuned in I felt it was the right move. So I reorganised my calendar and put my big girl panties on and went. While I was there I talked to one person who had 100% experienced what I’m going through right now in my personal life, and she was able to support me so I didn’t feel like a terrible, crazy person. Another friend who I haven’t seen for yonks completely validated a brand new business idea I had and shared numerous resources which have helped me immeasurably! It really did feel magical – like the universe was giving me gift after gift in the space of just a few hours. 

Combine your sixth sense, your intuition or your inner guidance system with aligned actions and you have a divine recipe for a beautifully fulfilling and successful life. I am not saying life will be all beers and skittles if you follow this recipe, life will still throw us curve balls and as humans we are messy by nature. However the tools you gain by learning to connect to your own, personal Google Maps of life and taking inspired action will support you through the wonders and the depths of this life has in store for you.

When you have absolutely no idea what is going to happen next and everything you thought was your life has fallen apart…

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Whether all is well, there is some discomfort or life feels like it’s coming crashing down simple spiritual tools can offer so much support, comfort and guidance.

This image was taken at the very worst time in my life, I was recently separated from my husband, I had moved out of my home and was staying with my Mum, I very suddenly left my job and was experiencing an emotional breakdown including anxiety attacks. My whole world was crashing down.

I found great solace and hope in connecting to my spiritual self, to God (whatever that may be to you – nature, the Universe etc). I found quieting my mind and practicing listening prayer with my head on my pillow as I was going to sleep was how I could tune into guidance and support from God and my angels. The process involves asking a question to your higher self/God, maybe just ‘what would you like me to know?’ And listening quietly for the answer to come to you. Listen with your heart rather than your head. Don’t worry if the answer doesn’t make sense or your hear nothing, gently does it. 

I craved to know more and so learned about other tools that offered this connection and support. Crystals are thought of as beings in their own right and can offer divination, healing and protection. There are many, many different types and colours which tend to have different properties and help us to bring in certain energies – for example I spent a lot of time with rose quartz and obsidian during this time. Rose quartz is the stone of love – in my case I was focusing on self love and healing. Obsidian is a strong protective stone helping me to feel I was taken care of even when negative and damaging energies were present. Using crystals can be as simple as placing one or two by your bed as your sleep, wearing them as jewellery or my personal favourite is popping them in your pocket and/or bra. Don’t forget to cleanse your crystals regularly. 

Angel cards and angel tarot cards were introduced to me around this time by my cousin and I found the messages so hopeful and comforting. I threw myself into learning all I could about angel tarot cards and am now a Certified Angel Tarot Card Reader using my cards every day for myself and others. When you have absolutely no idea what is going to happen next and everything you thought was your life has fallen apart, gaining insight from the angels, and my own intuition, was a life line to a yet unseen future with hope, possibility and happiness.

 

 

What to do when you don’t know what to do

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Today I had a situation which seemed like a lose-lose kinda situation – I was in a catch 22 and which ever way I went would be difficult. I felt stressed, emotional and I was trying to work out what the best move was in my head which was exhausting and unhelpful. I reached out to family and friends who were all supportive but they all had their own ideas which were all different – confusing!

Finally after stressing, crying, talking and worrying I decided I was getting nowhere. So I gave myself some space, calmed down and took a few breaths and remembered another way to approach it – through my spirit, through God and the Angels and my guides. I use Angel tarot cards to access guidance so I grabbed my phone and downloaded the app (I didn’t have my deck of cards on me). I prayed and asked a very simple ‘yes or no’ question – should I stay? The answer was a resounding yes!! It reminded me that I had consulted the cards when I was making a very similar decision recently and again the answer was clear and I followed the guidance. To be honest in both cases to my mind and my emotions the option of staying seemed like the most challenging and uncomfortable one.

I took the reading a little further and did a 5 card reading going into the situation in more depth. Again the cards were clear that I should stay. I felt very strongly that there is a reason I need to stay that is utterly invisible to me now, but I’m sure will become clear in time. God, the universe, the Angels have the BIG picture when our minds have a minuscule perspective. All of a sudden rather than questioning myself on whether I’m crazy for making important life decisions based on a few cards with pictures and words on them, it seemed crazy to try and work out what the best solution is from my tiny view point.

I felt such a sense of calm and peace at this realisation and there and the made my choice in full faith that I’m being guided by something far greater, that I can trust and let go of control. What a relief!

I highly recommend you try it – http://www.angeltherapy.com – Doreen Virtue’s website has a free oracle card section which is exactly where I started.

With love xx

Healing Angel tarot


During the most challenging time of my life thus far learning how to read Angel tarot cards was one of the most healing choices I made. When my life felt completely out of my control I knew handing it over to God was all that was left to do…and working with the angels and this ancient divination tool helped me to feel I could in some way gain insight into my situation and prepare for what was coming.

Now I pick three cards every morning to give me a heads up for the day. I use Doreen Virtue & Radleigh Valentine’s deck of Angel tarot and love it. The middle card represents the present, the first card being the past and the third is the future. Today my middle card is the 6 of Fire as you can see in the picture. It’s a card full of passion, energy and great success. Very positive and very powerful.

Looking forward to the day ahead and all it will bring 🎉