Create Magic with your Morning Ritual

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In the last few months I have massively upped my commitment to my morning ritual and all I can say is how I feel each day, and the results I’m seeing have been f**king epic!

Magical is right, there is 100% magic in creating and following a morning ritual everyday. Before you start rolling your eyes and clicking away, let me tell you it doesn’t need to take hours! It can take just 6 tiny minutes – I think we can all set aside 6 minutes in the morning to fill our selves up and set ourselves for fabulous, creative, successful days.

My initial inspiration for my morning ritual was taken from the book, The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. Hal outlines 6 elements to the miracle morning:

  1. Meditation
  2. Gratitude
  3. Affirmations
  4. Visualisation
  5. Reading
  6. Exercise

Perhaps you have already figured out how you can fit it into 6 minutes…? Yes – you spend one minute on each. This is great for super busy days, parents with kids up at the crack of a sparrows fart, whilst travelling etc. etc. However I do invite you to give each step a little more time when you can.

Below I will break it down for you and give you a few practical tips to make it super easy to kick start your days with magic and miracles.

  1. Meditation – if you are daunted by this – don’t be, find a short You Tube meditation, or download one online – there are thousands you can get for free. Have it handy on your phone so you can put it on first thing when you wake up, before you get out of bed. (If you share your bed – that’s what headphones are for :-))
  2. Gratitude – write down, or list in your head, 3 things you are grateful for and try to feel that sense of grateful wellbeing flood over you. Some days it’s trickier than others, but I bet can you find 3 little things. Mine are sometimes as simple as my bed, my fluffy cats and my warm home.
  3. Affirmations – these are ‘I am’ statements in the present tense which remind you to keep up with something or command something new into your reality. E.g. I am happy and high vibe or I am earning £X each month. The trick with these is to write them down and have them somewhere close by so you can remember them easily. 3 – 5 is a good number.
  4. Visualisation – this is the fun part! Don’t worry if you’re not a very visual person, you can still close your eyes and do this and it will be effective. You can visualise how you want to feel today, bringing that feeling into your body. You can visualise a specific event or circumstance, for example being pregnant or holding your new baby. It is limitless! The trick here is to really feel how would feel if that vision was your reality right now.
  5. Reading – just a few pages of a good, educational book. My absolute favourite for this is The Power of Awareness by Neville Goddard. It was written a long time and has lots of bible references but it is so short, so clear and to the point. I read it over and over again in these bite sized chunks.
  6. Exercise – so this is the point at which I get out of bed! This can be whatever you like – most recently I have added a bedroom dance party into my exercise and it is now my favourite part! Create a playlist of your favourite up beat tracks and dance around your room, sing along for extra good vibes! I also do yoga, running, walking, at home toning fitness – what you like – just don’t skip it.

A few general tips when starting out…

  • You can start with just 1 or 2, set yourself to succeed by not taking on too much, then bring in the rest when you’ve created a habit.
  • Create a visual of your morning routine and put it by your bed – I have one in pretty colours with all my affirmations and the list of practices so there is no way I ‘forget’ to do one.
  • Do not beat yourself up if you don’t succeed in completing your morning routine everyday from day 1! Give yourself break, understand that creating a new habit takes discipline and work, and re-commit.

I am so excited for you to get started, or re-commit to your magical morning ritual, I know it will raise your vibration, get you feeling excited and positive, keep front and centre in your mind what is most important to you – and the results will start to show up in your life.

Sending love xx

What is FREEDOM?

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Ooh – it’s a big questions isn’t it? What is FREEDOM? The dictionary says:

  1. the power, or right, to act, speak and think as one wants
  2. the state of not being imprisoned or enslaved

A lack of freedom in the extreme is literally being in prison, or being in a family or community where you are not allowed to be your true self. However, to me, freedom is not just not being in prison or being able to speak your mind…it is something we feel at a cellular level in our bodies, it’s how experience each day and each moment, it’s what our thoughts and beliefs are and the reality we are living.

So the real question is, what is FREEDOM to you?

What does it feel like? What does it look like? What does it smell like, even!? What and who are surrounded by? What are your daily actions? Where are you in the world? What do you give to yourself and to others?

I freaking love the term in the image, eleutheromania: a great desire or obsession with freedom! This has been a theme of my life, and I think for so many women in these times.

What does FREEDOM mean to me?

Freedom is waking up in the morning feeling excited for the day. Freedom means having an abundance of money, of loving friends and family, of beautiful things, of opportunity… Freedom is dancing naked. Freedom is swimming in the ocean. Freedom is living my life’s purpose. Freedom is success. Freedom is the ability to choose how I spend my time. Freedom is creativity and self expression. Freedom is nature. Freedom is moving my body in a way that feels amazing. Freedom is the ability to choose my thoughts. Freedom is manifesting my heart’s desires. Freedom is health. Freedom is happiness. Freedom is allowing the full range of human experience into my life and body. Freedom is healing.

I invite you to take a moment to ponder how free do you feel you in your life, what would make you feel more free and how would you feel if you had/ created/ were experiencing that right now?

Sending love xx

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Loosening your grip…


I have been noticing an interesting fact recently – we can hold more in our hands if they loosely open than when they are gripping tightly. In a practical sense, this is true. I noticed it when I was preparing my epsom salt bath, I tend to add epsom salts to my bath almost every day, I find it clears away the stagnant and cluttered energy and soothes my body – I love it! So I bought a HUGE tub of epsom salts which is a couple of feet from the bath, so to add the salt to the bath I pick it up in my hands. To start with I grabbed a handful closed my fist around it to carry it to the bath. After doing this a couple of times I realised I wasn’t being effective (I like a lot of epsom salt in my bath!). So I tried to hold my hand in the gesture of receiving, as you can see in the picture, and pick up the salt this way. I could hold so much more and was much more efficient! Hallelujah!

I know what you’re is she talking about?! And why do I care about her ‘salt tub to bath’ life issues? Well because it struck me that it was such a good lesson for our lives as a whole; when we grab at the things we want, when we try to hold onto them very tightly, the amount (abundance) we can hold is much more limited than when we open our hands to receive in an open and relaxed way.

We can apply this to so many areas of our lives, when we hold on super tight in a relationship for example we often experience the other person moving away a little as the energy we are putting out is a little grasping. If we are in sales and we are hounding people to commit to a call or a purchase, as if our lives depended on it, they tend to back off because the vibe we are giving out is off-putting and annoying.

Similarly if we are working on manifesting and creating what our heart’s desire in our lives the more we hold on tight to the specific outcome we want, the more the universe backs away because our energy is pushing it away. However if we keep our intention strong and our vision consistently clear AND allow our energetic hands to be open, we receive even more abundance than we had imagined.

This is a lesson for me, as much as it for you. It seems counter to so much of what we are taught and what’s in the media in the West ‘hustle, hustle, hustle’ and ‘chase after what you want’. But it’s such an important lesson to learn and practice in order to allow our dreams to be made manifest through us.

The magic is in setting your intention, clearing the space to receive it (e.g. getting rid of old negative beliefs and thought patterns), taking inspired action and letting go of your attachment to the outcome; holding your hands out to the universe in a gesture of receiving, having faith that what you seek is seeking you, rather than grasping at what you want and squeezing the life out of it.

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The third way…


I have been thinking a lot about ‘the third way’ recently. I was listening to a podcast a few months ago and the subject was about complex loss, such as when a loved one goes missing and there are no answers as to what happened to them. Dealing with these traumatic emotions and grief is somewhat different to more clearly defined loss, like a death from natural causes. During the conversation they discussed closure, whether it can be achieved after a complex loss, they said closure is not necessarily the aim or the end result, that there is a third way. The third way in this instance was rather than be swallowed by the grief and stay in the obsession of the loss, or shut it out in an attempt to reach ‘closure’, there is a messy, uncomfortable, but more authentic, third way. This third way is acknowledging the suffering and feeling the painful emotions, along with reaching for and moving towards the future without necessarily having a sense of closure. Can you feel in that description the third way feels vulnerable and messy, and yet honest and real?

In so many cases the third way is the way of healing and most true way to move through challenging times. In my case I have been trying to reconcile, in my mind and heart, a failed marriage; it was toxic and painful, but there was deep love and connection. The first way to process it could be; it was toxic therefore it was bad and unhealthy so chalk it up to a negative experience – put it in the ‘bad’ box. The second way could be; the love was so deep that I may never get over it, or feel that way again, the love of my life is lost, wallowing in the loss. And then there’s the much messier, but more authentic third way; there were parts that were unhealthy and toxic, they were bad. There were parts that were magical and loving, they were good. There is no box to put it in, it moves between the two extremes. This means there is no closure per se, it’s an ongoing organic process; there are happy memories which can hurt because it’s over, and there are painful, angry memories which can bring relief that the situation isn’t current anymore.

The third way runs between the first and second ways, which are both the more extreme options. The third way combines the two, it’s therefore a meandering path that traverses both sides without a pre-planned route or destination. This is what makes the third way so uncomfortable for us humans; we like to know exactly where we’re going and how to get there. I feel it’s so important to honour both the beauty and the pain, to feel the full spectrum of the feelings and flow with the third way.

This concept of the third way is applicable in so many facets of life; politics, health, the environment, day-to-day experience. For example when it comes to drinking alcohol, we have a growing binge drinking problem in the UK; large numbers of people don’t drink during the week then drink as much as they can at the weekend. Both of these are extremes; no alcohol and all the alcohol. The third way is the way of moderation, in this case it might be having a few drinks a couple of times a week. You often hear people say they find it possible to either not drink at all, or binge drink, that the discipline of moderation is the most difficult. You see the same when it comes to food; people yo-yoing between eating whatever they want, often to excess, then going on very restrictive diets in an attempt to counter balance the excess. When in actual fact the balanced approach of listening to your body and eating what you need, with some treats thrown in for fun, is the healthiest approach.

In Buddhism it is called the middle way; The Middle Way refers to the Buddha’s enlightened view of life and also the actions or attitudes that will create happiness for oneself and others. It is the rejection of extremes, which is depicted in the story of Shakyamuni; he first lathered himself in luxury, then deprived himself of everything, he realised neither extreme would take him any closer to spiritual enlightenment. ‘In his rejection of both self-mortification and self-indulgence, Shakyamuni awakened to the true nature of life—its eternity, its deep wellspring of unbounded vitality and wisdom.’

The Cambridge English Dictionary explains ‘the third way’ as a political movement in which the development of business is balanced with the needs of society. It is proposed to be the third way between capitalism and socialism. Taking the example of American politics at the moment, in some ways its easier for people dehumanise President Trump and his followers, and even hate them, than it is for them to have their own opinions and at the same time have compassion for, and see the humanness in, the opposition.

The tricky thing is choosing either extreme can often feel more exhilarating; there is usually adrenaline associated with the high of excess, and there may even be a sense of accomplishment in the extreme of denial. Taking the third way can feel unstimulating, boring and overly measured. There are of course circumstances which require an extreme response; a high level of adrenaline and life or death commitment to a cause. For example it took a World War to neutralise the threat and horrifying atrocities committed on behalf of Hitler.

I’m sure you can think of many circumstances, in your own life and globally, where navigating a third way between the extremes would bring more peace and healing. However as we have seen it’s not necessarily the easy option for us, in most cases it takes discipline, vulnerability and radical honesty. Cultivating this third way in our own lives, in our own struggles, and on a global scale, is a worthy practice. It will feel messy and uncomfortable, the path may not be clear, but it is where we find wisdom, acceptance and true healing.

Just because you’re doing nothing, doesn’t mean nothing is being done

My very special mentor once said to me ‘just because you’re doing nothing, doesn’t mean nothing is being done’. This phrase has been playing over and over in my head recently; it means we don’t only have to rely on our own individual actions or power to create and experience life, we have the whole universe to support us. 

This concept is pertinent at the moment because I’m in a place where I need to wait, be patient and be very gentle with myself, rather than steaming ahead taking bucket loads of action. Don’t get me wrong, taking action is essential and wonderful, but there are also times when it’s in our highest good to step back and slow down to create space and a sense of peace. Even if we want to create something amazing and huge, you could argue especially if you want to create something huge, allowing space for the universe to birth it through you is a key part of the manifestation process. 

I have been talking about this with one of my clients recently; she is creating a beautiful, soulful business and she feels guided to slow down and drop into the feminine energy of allowing, rather than the masculine energy of pushing. I can totally relate; I’m a doer, proactive and if there’s a problem or a goal I want to ‘do’ something about it. Doing makes me feel like I’ve achieved something, like I’m moving forward, like I’m a little bit more deserving of what it is that I want. But at this time I’m being strongly guided to ‘do’ less and ‘be’ more. 

Some of the things I do to create space and slow down are; watch tv for as long as I feel like, take a walk with no destination and in no hurry, take my time to cook a beautiful meal just for me, lie on my bed with my cats doing nothing, meditate, practice yoga, read a novel, have a bath with no distractions, daytime naps (my favourite!). 

Sometimes doing less and giving myself time to just do nothing, or do things which feel good but are unproductive in a practical sense, feels very uncomfortable for me. My mind can start to get anxious that I haven’t done enough, that I’m missing an opportunity, that there’s no forward motion. When I do allow myself space, time and stop doing for a while, I can feel my creativity blossoming and all the cells in my body start to hum with a contented peacefulness. It feels good! And feeling good is the best possible space from to attract what you most want into your life, according to the Law of Attraction.

It takes a little faith, patience and surrender to really create the space inside of you, and in your life, for the universe to come along and fill it up with more than you could have ever imagined. Not to mention you get to feel like you’re on a bed of marshmallows surrounded by chocolate fountains of ease and grace along the way 😉 

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Guides, change and butterflies 

Butterflies signify change or spiritual transformation. The Native Americans associated change and vibrancy with butterflies because of the incredible transformation they undergo from caterpillar to chrysalis to beautiful, winged butterfly.

I’ve been seeing a lot of butterflies recently; on cards, in the park, carvings on benches and all sorts. To me this is a message from my guides that change is coming, and is needed. Change can be scary and unsettling, however the sight of a darting, colourful butterfly reminds me that change can also be magical and create a sense of freedom for me. A much desired freedom! 

All you need to do is ask your guides for guidance, ask them for a sign, to gain their support. Then be open and present to notice it when it comes. If you have a decision to make or a problem you’re turning over and over in your head, ask for the support of the universe and your guides to show you which direction to move in. 

You don’t need to know what all the animals in the world signify, or anything in particular, they will send you signs that you can understand. They won’t always seem logical, however, and it’s up to you to follow the guidance of you choose. Repeating signs are a clear message from your guides, such as me seeing butterflies everywhere. 

Try it – ask your guides to support you – see what happens… 

With so much love, Gemma 💖