What happens when you ignore your intuition?

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Have you ignored your intuition before? I’m sure we all have at some point or other… And what was the outcome? Did you take the job you knew in your gut wasn’t right for you, and you struggled for ages before leaving? Did you say yes to the invitation when you felt the right answer was no? But went anyway and felt exhausted and depleted, kicking yourself for knowing better?

I could literally write a book about all the times I haven’t listened to my intuition! And I am writing from experience when I describe what the results of ignoring your internal guidance system can lead to. Following your intuition will certainly pay off, and not following it will lead to some pretty painful lessons.

IMPORTANT NOTE: this is not meant to scare you or freak you out, your intuition is forever loving and we have free will to choose whether we take action on our intuitive guidance or not. If we choose not to, it may make life more tricky, but all is not lost, it’s all part of the learning process and the universe gives us unlimited opportunities to course correct.

What happens when you ignore your intuition?

  • I love Oprah’s explanation of how the universe, or God or your guides (intuition) whisper to you, she says ‘life is whispering to you all the time’ and you need to listen to the whispers. She says if you don’t listen, the whisper gets louder, it starts off as a pebble, then a bigger pebble, then a thump on the head (when it’s become a problem), then a brick to the head (a crisis) and then the whole house falls down.
  • Not listening to your intuition, and acting on it, can lead to living parts of your life out of alignment with your true self and your true purpose. This can result in health issues, emotional crises and in extreme cases the life you’ve built crumbling down around you. This is what happened to me; my old patterns and codependent behaviour drowned out my intuition in a long term romantic relationship. I built a whole life around him and eventually my body was the first to literally stop functioning as a massive sign I was in a hugely toxic situation. Reconnecting to my intuition, and making it priority in my life, was an important part of my healing process.
  • Our intuition is our best inner GPS or sat nav: by connecting to our guides and higher selves we have access to information that is impossible to attain through the 5 senses. Using our sixth sense by listening to our intuitive nudges, and acting on it, allows us to be in the flow of our lives, flowing with the divine. When we are not in flow, or making all our decisions from the thinking mind and/ or the ego, it can be really hard work. Feeling like we’re constantly pushing and striving and clawing our way forward. Whereas being in flow feels energising, inspiring and full of ease.
  • Living without being relationship with our spiritual selves, with our higher selves or our intuition can feel like we’re in this alone. Like we can only achieve success through our own mental and physical work, that when the chips are down we need to figure it all out on our own. This is 100% not true, we have a whole team of angelic and spiritual guides to support us and who want to see us fulfilled and happy. They are available to us 100% of the time, it is up to us to get quiet and tune in, to learn how to hear the whispers, and to trust them.

To help you tune into what your intuition is telling you I created this short video – click here to watch it now.

 

What they don’t tell you about manifesting…

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I’m sure you’ve heard of the Law of Attraction, or the book The Secret, which is based on the Law of Attraction. Manifesting what your heart desires is a spiritual process, to which an understanding of these universal laws is extremely helpful.

I use manifestation practices in my life every single day and the results constantly amaze and delight me. However there more to it than ‘think positive thoughts and all you desire will fall in your lap’.

For the purposes of this blog I am assuming you have a basic understanding of the manifestation process, as rather than write another book on how to manifest (there many wonderful books out there!) I want to share 3 tips which are little talked about, but crucial to getting the results you want.

  1. There is often a gap between setting your intention, taking action and the result actually appearing in your life. So many people do wonderful work of setting up their manifestation, then it doesn’t appear immediately and they lose hope and faith. Holding your intention, and your belief, that what it is you most want is true for you, in that space in between, is crucial. You can imagine the universe is responding to your desire, has started moving to give it to you, in line with the action you’ve taken towards it, then you stop and start to doubt, and the universe gets the message that you maybe don’t want it so much after all. This is meant in no way to scare you into never having doubts, it’s to make you aware of the importance of maintaining your level of commitment and belief, even when it may seem your heart’s desire is no where to be found.
  2. What limits our ability to manifest is so often to be found within ourselves, our thoughts playing a big part. Thoughts lead to feelings and actions, which lead back to thoughts and so on and so on. Being mindful of our thoughts is our job during the manifestation process. For example, say you are wanting to create more financial abundance in your life and you have got clear about how much money you want to make and doing the work of taking action to create it. Great start! But if you are going through your days saying to yourself, or out load, ‘I can’t afford that, I’ll never be able to afford that, I am destined to be struggling financially, I don’t deserve more than I have’ you are negating the process. The universe only says YES! So if you are offering those thoughts of lack, the universe will respond with ‘YES, you can’t afford that, YES, you are destined to be struggling financially…and so on’. The first step in overcoming this limiting factor is to become aware of your thoughts and whenever you notice a lack thought you consciously step in and change it. For example; ‘I can’t afford that’ could be flipped to ‘I can easily afford to buy 5 of those if I really want to, and give the rest to my friends’. I’m not saying go ahead and buy it if the money has not yet landed in your bank, however changing the thought will change your vibration to one of abundance resulting in the universe saying ‘YES!’
  3. When we delve a little deeper from the level of thought, we find ourselves at the level of beliefs. I’m sure you’ve heard the term ‘limiting beliefs’ and our beliefs can empower us to wonderful experiences, or keep us stuck in realities we dislike. The tricky thing about beliefs and our brains is that our brains are programmed to filter what we experience to actively support the beliefs we have established. For example if you were doing a presentation to a group of people and you had a belief that those people would not enjoy, pay attention to or support you. You would be looking around the room as you are speaking and your mind would focus in on the one person who is on their phone and barely looking at you, your mind would say ‘see, I knew it, they don’t care and this is a waste of time’. What your mind wouldn’t see is the rest of the room who are hanging on your every word and looking at you with encouragement. The result this can have on your manifestation process is you don’t even see the opportunities that the universe has placed right under your nose! The good news is you can absolutely re-programme your beliefs to support your dreams, the bad news is it’s not always easy. It is your job and your responsibility to do what it takes to break down old, limiting beliefs and create new supportive ones. Whether that involves reading books and self study or working with a coach or therapist.

Sending love xx

 

Create Magic with your Morning Ritual

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In the last few months I have massively upped my commitment to my morning ritual and all I can say is how I feel each day, and the results I’m seeing have been f**king epic!

Magical is right, there is 100% magic in creating and following a morning ritual everyday. Before you start rolling your eyes and clicking away, let me tell you it doesn’t need to take hours! It can take just 6 tiny minutes – I think we can all set aside 6 minutes in the morning to fill our selves up and set ourselves for fabulous, creative, successful days.

My initial inspiration for my morning ritual was taken from the book, The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. Hal outlines 6 elements to the miracle morning:

  1. Meditation
  2. Gratitude
  3. Affirmations
  4. Visualisation
  5. Reading
  6. Exercise

Perhaps you have already figured out how you can fit it into 6 minutes…? Yes – you spend one minute on each. This is great for super busy days, parents with kids up at the crack of a sparrows fart, whilst travelling etc. etc. However I do invite you to give each step a little more time when you can.

Below I will break it down for you and give you a few practical tips to make it super easy to kick start your days with magic and miracles.

  1. Meditation – if you are daunted by this – don’t be, find a short You Tube meditation, or download one online – there are thousands you can get for free. Have it handy on your phone so you can put it on first thing when you wake up, before you get out of bed. (If you share your bed – that’s what headphones are for :-))
  2. Gratitude – write down, or list in your head, 3 things you are grateful for and try to feel that sense of grateful wellbeing flood over you. Some days it’s trickier than others, but I bet can you find 3 little things. Mine are sometimes as simple as my bed, my fluffy cats and my warm home.
  3. Affirmations – these are ‘I am’ statements in the present tense which remind you to keep up with something or command something new into your reality. E.g. I am happy and high vibe or I am earning £X each month. The trick with these is to write them down and have them somewhere close by so you can remember them easily. 3 – 5 is a good number.
  4. Visualisation – this is the fun part! Don’t worry if you’re not a very visual person, you can still close your eyes and do this and it will be effective. You can visualise how you want to feel today, bringing that feeling into your body. You can visualise a specific event or circumstance, for example being pregnant or holding your new baby. It is limitless! The trick here is to really feel how would feel if that vision was your reality right now.
  5. Reading – just a few pages of a good, educational book. My absolute favourite for this is The Power of Awareness by Neville Goddard. It was written a long time and has lots of bible references but it is so short, so clear and to the point. I read it over and over again in these bite sized chunks.
  6. Exercise – so this is the point at which I get out of bed! This can be whatever you like – most recently I have added a bedroom dance party into my exercise and it is now my favourite part! Create a playlist of your favourite up beat tracks and dance around your room, sing along for extra good vibes! I also do yoga, running, walking, at home toning fitness – whatever you like – just don’t skip it.

A few general tips when starting out…

  • You can start with just 1 or 2, set yourself to succeed by not taking on too much, then bring in the rest when you’ve created a habit.
  • Create a visual of your morning routine and put it by your bed – I have one in pretty colours with all my affirmations and the list of practices so there is no way I ‘forget’ to do one.
  • Do not beat yourself up if you don’t succeed in completing your morning routine everyday from day 1! Give yourself break, understand that creating a new habit takes discipline and work, and re-commit.

I am so excited for you to get started, or re-commit to your magical morning ritual, I know it will raise your vibration, get you feeling excited and positive, keep front and centre in your mind what is most important to you – and the results will start to show up in your life.

Sending love xx

Loosening your grip…

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I have been noticing an interesting fact recently – we can hold more in our hands if they loosely open than when they are gripping tightly. In a practical sense, this is true. I noticed it when I was preparing my epsom salt bath, I tend to add epsom salts to my bath almost every day, I find it clears away the stagnant and cluttered energy and soothes my body – I love it! So I bought a HUGE tub of epsom salts which is a couple of feet from the bath, so to add the salt to the bath I pick it up in my hands. To start with I grabbed a handful closed my fist around it to carry it to the bath. After doing this a couple of times I realised I wasn’t being effective (I like a lot of epsom salt in my bath!). So I tried to hold my hand in the gesture of receiving, as you can see in the picture, and pick up the salt this way. I could hold so much more and was much more efficient! Hallelujah!

I know what you’re thinking..wtf is she talking about?! And why do I care about her ‘salt tub to bath’ life issues? Well because it struck me that it was such a good lesson for our lives as a whole; when we grab at the things we want, when we try to hold onto them very tightly, the amount (abundance) we can hold is much more limited than when we open our hands to receive in an open and relaxed way.

We can apply this to so many areas of our lives, when we hold on super tight in a relationship for example we often experience the other person moving away a little as the energy we are putting out is a little grasping. If we are in sales and we are hounding people to commit to a call or a purchase, as if our lives depended on it, they tend to back off because the vibe we are giving out is off-putting and annoying.

Similarly if we are working on manifesting and creating what our heart’s desire in our lives the more we hold on tight to the specific outcome we want, the more the universe backs away because our energy is pushing it away. However if we keep our intention strong and our vision consistently clear AND allow our energetic hands to be open, we receive even more abundance than we had imagined.

This is a lesson for me, as much as it for you. It seems counter to so much of what we are taught and what’s in the media in the West ‘hustle, hustle, hustle’ and ‘chase after what you want’. But it’s such an important lesson to learn and practice in order to allow our dreams to be made manifest through us.

The magic is in setting your intention, clearing the space to receive it (e.g. getting rid of old negative beliefs and thought patterns), taking inspired action and letting go of your attachment to the outcome; holding your hands out to the universe in a gesture of receiving, having faith that what you seek is seeking you, rather than grasping at what you want and squeezing the life out of it.

Photo credit: Dollar Photo Club

Just because you’re doing nothing, doesn’t mean nothing is being done


My very special mentor once said to me ‘just because you’re doing nothing, doesn’t mean nothing is being done’. This phrase has been playing over and over in my head recently; it means we don’t only have to rely on our own individual actions or power to create and experience life, we have the whole universe to support us. 

This concept is pertinent at the moment because I’m in a place where I need to wait, be patient and be very gentle with myself, rather than steaming ahead taking bucket loads of action. Don’t get me wrong, taking action is essential and wonderful, but there are also times when it’s in our highest good to step back and slow down to create space and a sense of peace. Even if we want to create something amazing and huge, you could argue especially if you want to create something huge, allowing space for the universe to birth it through you is a key part of the manifestation process. 

I have been talking about this with one of my clients recently; she is creating a beautiful, soulful business and she feels guided to slow down and drop into the feminine energy of allowing, rather than the masculine energy of pushing. I can totally relate; I’m a doer, proactive and if there’s a problem or a goal I want to ‘do’ something about it. Doing makes me feel like I’ve achieved something, like I’m moving forward, like I’m a little bit more deserving of what it is that I want. But at this time I’m being strongly guided to ‘do’ less and ‘be’ more. 

Some of the things I do to create space and slow down are; watch tv for as long as I feel like, take a walk with no destination and in no hurry, take my time to cook a beautiful meal just for me, lie on my bed with my cats doing nothing, meditate, practice yoga, read a novel, have a bath with no distractions, daytime naps (my favourite!). 

Sometimes doing less and giving myself time to just do nothing, or do things which feel good but are unproductive in a practical sense, feels very uncomfortable for me. My mind can start to get anxious that I haven’t done enough, that I’m missing an opportunity, that there’s no forward motion. When I do allow myself space, time and stop doing for a while, I can feel my creativity blossoming and all the cells in my body start to hum with a contented peacefulness. It feels good! And feeling good is the best possible space from to attract what you most want into your life, according to the Law of Attraction.

It takes a little faith, patience and surrender to really create the space inside of you, and in your life, for the universe to come along and fill it up with more than you could have ever imagined. Not to mention you get to feel like you’re on a bed of marshmallows surrounded by chocolate fountains of ease and grace along the way 😉 

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How do you manifest your dream life? 


Do you ever have the feeling that you’re on a merry-go-round and not really getting any closer to what you really want? That it feels just out of reach; the job, the relationship, the ideal body?

If I were to ask you to explain to me exactly what it is you desire, what it looks like, what it feels like – would you be able to tell me? So often we have an idea of what we want e.g. A family or a well paid job. But we are not very clear on exactly what that is.

When we give our ‘order’ for what we most want in life to the universe we must be very clear and specific. Imagine going to a restaurant and placing your order with the waiter like this ‘I’d like something warm, perhaps cheesy, moderately healthy and I want to feel full after I’ve eaten it’. With this vague order you could end up receiving anything from a burger to cheese on toast or a ploughmans. This principle is the same when are making our ‘orders’ from the universe, if we are vague and unsure the universe gives us vague and unsure. It’s essential that we get very specific and clear about what our dreams are.

Getting clear can be a scary process, especially if you’ve been hurt or experienced failure in that area of life before. It feels like you’re putting yourself on the line and making yourself vulnerable to disappointments if it doesn’t work out. It feels safer to stay vague and not ask for the world, than it does to ask for exactly what you want and have faith the universe will guide you towards it. Think about it, are you ok to live your life like the restaurant example? To take a gamble that you might like what you get, or you might not?

The key is to get specific, paint a picture for the universe, write it down, create a vision board. I know it can feel scary, but it’s so worth it isn’t it? Start by choosing one area of your life and write down what your dream is in that area. For example if it’s your career it could go something like this…’I love working from wherever I choose on my business. I wake up in the morning feeling energised and excited to get started on my work and make a difference in people’s lives…’ Write in the present tense, as if it’s your current reality, this helps to convince your mind and subconscious that it is a reality – we are literally writing it into being.

The most effective way to manifest is to connect a strong emotion to your dream. We’ve all experienced how passion can achieve far more than neutrality, take Martin Luther King, look at what he created in his short life because he had passion for his dream. So as you’re writing your dream infuse it with words and scenes that elicit a strong emotion in you; love, excitement, joy. Feel the feelings in your body as you read back over it, feel free to make changes and adjustments to make it feel more emotive.

Once you are happy with your dream read it everyday, out loud if you can. Create a vision board to bring it life visually, you can even include pictures of yourself on your board. Create the scenes in your imagination as often as you can, feel the feelings of gratitude and joy for living out your dream. And of course be open to guidance and signs for actions to take in order to move closer and closer to your dream. It can be fun! The more you bring your vibration and feelings in line with those of your dream, the more you will naturally attract it into your reality.

Think of your life as the canvas and you are the painter, or your life is a book and you are the author, you hold the creative power to bring it to life in which ever way your heart desires.