At home retreat – Step 2 – self care

I was very much a shower on the run girl – squeezing in a quick rinse to clean the essentials while my head was full of the lists of things I had to do that day. Maybe once in a couple of months I’d treat myself to a bath and even then I’d get bored and hot and jump out pretty quick.

During this time of recovery from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome combined with healing my heart I have learned to approach life at a completely different pace. I learned to slow down, and at times stop completely, because I had no other option, my body decided for me. One of the aspects that has been crucial in my healing journey, and a huge part of my ‘at home retreat’ is self care. Self care is very closely connected to self love in that it’s a the physical choices we make to take care of ourselves.

Taking the time for myself and treating myself everyday to a simple, leisurely bath has been my number 1 self care ritual during my retreat and I have continued since. It is a small way I show myself that I’m important and that I love myself, as well as it being healing in a practical way.

My self care, bath time ritual involves:

Daily…

  • Run your bath and set the scene – light a candle or two, lower the lights and I love to have a big glass of water (or drink of your choice).
  • I love to have something to do while I’m enjoying my bath e.g. watch my favourite show on the iPad, listen to a meditation audio, watch a spiritual video or listen to music.
  • I put a good amount of Epsom Salt into my bath nearly everyday – there are so many benefits to Epsom Salts such as relieving aches and pains, very detoxifying and cleansing for your energy and aura – its the best!
  • Add essential oils or flower essences – depending on whether you’re bathing to relax or to wash before starting your day you can choose essential oils to help you. I love lavender to relax and sage to cleanse, citrus oils are good for lifting energy.
  • Once comfortably in your bath I recommend using healthy, non toxic products to wash with – I use Arbonne products as they’re vegan, contain no nasties and work brilliantly. Use a specific face wash for your skin needs, I love the SeaSource Detox Body Wash for everywhere else and of course hair care. (Note if you put lots of Epsom Salt into your bath it can leave your hair a bit crispy – you can always rinse it in the shower afterwards).
  • Give yourself at least 20 mins to soak in the bath with the salts to get the full benefits while you enjoy your music or video and when its time to get out do so gently, I always take time to rest a little after a bath before rushing to get dressed or get on with the next task.

Once or twice a week…

  • Exfoliate your whole body twice a week – I use a natural exfoliating mitt and the Arbonne SeaSouce Detox Salt Scrub for my body and the FC5 Exfoliating New Cell Scrub for my face – which can double as a face mask too. Every now and then I use a more deeply cleansing or nourishing face mask.
  • Don’t forget your feet and hands! It’s easy to focus on your face and forget about the parts of your body that do the most work – feet and hands. Once a week I like to treat my feet and hands to a revitalising salt scrub all of their own – they feel so soft and lovely afterwards.

There are so many aspects of this bath ritual that are healing both spiritually and physically; giving time and energy to yourself is so important, it sets the standard for how others treat you too. Switching off from your daily tasks by enjoying a TV show or doing a relaxing meditation while in the bath creates space in your mind to find peace, creativity and is like a re-set button. The essential oils, Epsom Salts and Arbonne products are nourishing your senses and physical body with minerals, cell renewing properties and removing toxins.

Now it’s your turn – enjoy!

 

At home retreat – guide to creating your own retreat in your own home

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Last week I was feeling stuck and frustrated – you know when you’ve tried so many things to feel better and kick start yourself back to health/ease (insert your own word) and none of it has really worked. So I thought RETREAT! What better?! A break away from it all focusing on health and wellbeing and myself – how wonderful!

I did some research online and then the reality started to dawn…last minute retreats which are good quality are expensive, I have two fur babies who need to be fed and loved, I don’t really want the hassle of packing and travelling and, and, and, and…

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Who would want to leave these adorable fluffy souls for a whole week!?

Anyway I came up with a solution – an at home retreat. Over the next few days I will go through the steps I came up with to create my ‘at home retreat’ which is simple, cost effective and can be worked around your normal life.

The main steps to creating my healing, nurturing retreat involve getting healthy meals delivered (yes it is possible, it doesn’t break the bank and it’s amazing – almost like having your own private chef!), moving your body, healing treatments, self love at home treatments, TV/internet fasting and time to play, sleep, cry and whatever you need my lovely.

Extra benefits you would not get from an away retreat are spending time with my cats, Raff & Max, setting up new and healthy habits at home which can be continued and an unexpected outcome is it’s a perfect time for space clearing – home, body, life – whatever needs some throwing out to make space for shiny newness.

Step 1 coming tomorrow…

 

When you have absolutely no idea what is going to happen next and everything you thought was your life has fallen apart…

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Whether all is well, there is some discomfort or life feels like it’s coming crashing down simple spiritual tools can offer so much support, comfort and guidance.

This image was taken at the very worst time in my life, I was recently separated from my husband, I had moved out of my home and was staying with my Mum, I very suddenly left my job and was experiencing an emotional breakdown including anxiety attacks. My whole world was crashing down.

I found great solace and hope in connecting to my spiritual self, to God (whatever that may be to you – nature, the Universe etc). I found quieting my mind and practicing listening prayer with my head on my pillow as I was going to sleep was how I could tune into guidance and support from God and my angels. The process involves asking a question to your higher self/God, maybe just ‘what would you like me to know?’ And listening quietly for the answer to come to you. Listen with your heart rather than your head. Don’t worry if the answer doesn’t make sense or your hear nothing, gently does it. 

I craved to know more and so learned about other tools that offered this connection and support. Crystals are thought of as beings in their own right and can offer divination, healing and protection. There are many, many different types and colours which tend to have different properties and help us to bring in certain energies – for example I spent a lot of time with rose quartz and obsidian during this time. Rose quartz is the stone of love – in my case I was focusing on self love and healing. Obsidian is a strong protective stone helping me to feel I was taken care of even when negative and damaging energies were present. Using crystals can be as simple as placing one or two by your bed as your sleep, wearing them as jewellery or my personal favourite is popping them in your pocket and/or bra. Don’t forget to cleanse your crystals regularly. 

Angel cards and angel tarot cards were introduced to me around this time by my cousin and I found the messages so hopeful and comforting. I threw myself into learning all I could about angel tarot cards and am now a Certified Angel Tarot Card Reader using my cards every day for myself and others. When you have absolutely no idea what is going to happen next and everything you thought was your life has fallen apart, gaining insight from the angels, and my own intuition, was a life line to a yet unseen future with hope, possibility and happiness.